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9Aug, 2011

When Tragedy Strikes and the Healing Begins

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As I was doing my Amazon.com search for new books and music, I came across a CD entitled “Beauty Will Rise” by Steven Curtis Chapman.  The songs on the CD talk about Chapman’s journey after his adopted daughter’s accidental death.  He shares his struggles, his anguish, his doubts, his faith and his hope.   Maybe some of us (like myself) seemed removed from tragedies like an accidental death of a child, suicide, murder, natural disasters (e.g., the New Orleans hurricane, the Joplin tornado which claimed many lives), or the 9/11 […]
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9Aug, 2011

Considering The Stages of Change

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Considering the Stages of Change   Changing for the better is sometimes difficult, but it can lead to a sense of self-assurance in a healthy way.  Maybe you are considering a lifestyle change for your health.  Perhaps you are thinking about increasing your commitment to exercise, eat well and give up harmful habits.  Maybe you want to improve your communication habits with loved ones or become more organized.  Whatever your goal is that will make your life better, you are realizing it is important to you to make a commitment […]
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3Aug, 2011

Making A Change

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Making A Change  You might think that change is hard.  A Greek philosopher proposed that change is inevitable when he said, “Nothing is permanent except change.”  In coaching and counseling, people come in for help to make changes.  They often explain it as a response to something that has changed outside of them.  Usually, the change is unwelcome and the feelings they associate with the changes are upsetting in some way.   What changes are you experiencing?  Are you taking on new responsibilities in the workplace or at home?  Have you […]
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29Jul, 2011

Integrity

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I’m sure you are all aware of politicians, Hollywood personalities, sports superstars (or superduds), company executives who make news headlines, because they did something that we might consider immoral, unethical, or dishonest.  We get caught up in their stories, maybe even find them humorous or intoxicating. Unfortunately, we find these same stories happening in our own backyards involving people we know.   Some of the immoral, unethical, dishonest behavior we observe include *greed in pursuit of wealth, status, power for one’s self *taking advantage of someone for one’s personal gain *accepting […]
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14Jul, 2011

Talking or Medicine?

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Talking or Medicine? Getting the best help for your current situation may bring you to the age-old question of the “best” type of therapy.  Will you recover better with talking therapy or a prescription for medication? Many people start by considering what they have the quickest access to obtain.  Do you have a good relationship with your primary care doctor and is it fairly easy to go for an appointment?  Does your employer offer an Employee Assistance Program (EAP)?  Have you had a prior experience with therapy or with a […]
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7Jul, 2011

Routines can be as Easy as 1-2-3

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Routines can be as Easy as 1-2-3   Every family I meet lately is concerned about stress.  Parents are weary and overwhelmed and children are tense, easily frustrated and confused.  Even in couples counseling when children are not involved, partners complain of too much to do, not enough time and feeling discouraged.   In my last post, I encouraged families to look at summer as a great time for creating some new routines.  This is especially helpful when someone in the family experiences problems with attention.  In this post I […]
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5Jul, 2011

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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The above title is from a Clash song about one’s indecisiveness in breaking off a bad relationship.  He knows that if he leaves there will be trouble but the decision to stay would be even worse.  Nonetheless, the songwriter notes that it is up to the partner (who appears to be controlling the relationship) to make the decision in spite of the troubles they are having.   I have counseled individuals who have been or are currently caught up in an unhealthy relationship.  These relationships include married, engaged, uncommitted couples […]
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3Jul, 2011

ADHD Summer

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ADHD Summer As the song says, “Summertime and the living is easy!”  Families everywhere breathe a sigh of relief when school ends.  This may be especially true when a child struggles with attention concerns that interfere with school success. As summer break settles in for real with Fourth of July celebrations and the joy of summer activities, it may be a good time to think about how any family can use summer to help children develop lifelong skills and habits.  Take a few minutes and list a few things that […]
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1Jul, 2011

Good Customer Service Is Not Extinct

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I’m simply amazed at the lack of customer service no matter where you go. It seems like customer service has gone the way of the dinosaur.  I think we all have experienced bad customer service (just a few examples) – no one around to help you employees chatting to each other and ignoring you simply rude or unfriendly or not accommodating no greeting or smile to acknowledge your presence at a restaurant, the server doesn’t come back to check up on you until they hand you the bill slow service […]
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29Jun, 2011

Relationship Pointers

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When in a long term relationship or marriage the following information can be beneficial:   1)  Communicate openly about what you want from your partner.  Ask him/her what they want from the relationship.  The purpose of these questions will be to figure out if you are both on the same page in terms of what you want from the relationship.   2)  Do not allow disagreements to fester.  Find a quiet place and talk about the issue openly one at a time.  Use I messages such as I think, I […]
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