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16Aug, 2013

Could You Be As Nice As It Takes?

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In his book The 100/0 Principle, The Secret of Great Relationships ( 2010),  Al Ritter, the CFO of a Fortune 500 consumer goods company, quoted French writer Marcel Proust: “True discovery consists not in finding new landscapes, but in seeing the same landscape with new eyes.”  In The 100/0 Principle, Ritter relates a story about a relationship that his boss, the president of the company, asked him to create with a business acquaintance Ritter disliked intensely. He reported that initially he didn’t know what to do, but finally decided that […]
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12Aug, 2013

The Seven Principle’s Couple Pogram

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Wow, it is Sunday night and I just completed teaching my first ever weekend Seven Principle’s couple program based on John Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Here were some of the comments about the training: “Enjoyed the creative add-on’s.” “Karen’s special touches were awesome.” “Your place (Karen’s office) is wonderful, nice and homey, very comfortable …warm and welcoming.” “I hope others take this program, it is quite enlightening for all ages…I could see every 5 years a refresher course.” “Even though we were friends coming in […]
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27Jul, 2013

Relationships, Winston Churchill and John Gottman

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My husband and I recently took a day trip to Fulton, Mo to see The National Churchill Museum at Westminster College. It was a hot day, so being in an air-conditioned museum seemed like a good idea. Actually it was too cold inside, but we spent three hours learning about this extraordinary man.  Although Sir Winston Churchill was a prolific writer, I wasn’t thinking about him as having anything to say about couple relationships, as I was reading about his accomplishments and reviewing the famous Iron Curtain Speech that he […]
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18Jul, 2013

Adding 1 degree to your relationshp

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So, I am reading a book called 212 Degrees, written by Sam Parker and Mac Anderson, given to me, to my surprise, by Tom Hill (author of Chicken Soup of the Entreprenauer’s Soul and Living at the Summit, A Life Plan) at the Cottleville Chamber of Commerce luncheon during his inspirational talk, Tuesday, July 16. 212 Degrees is a short book about raising the temperature of water one degree. That one degree, the book explains, is the difference between something hot and something that can power a locomotive, steam. Interesting […]
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16Nov, 2011

Connecting with your Pre-teen-Teenage Child: Notice the good things they try do. Don’t wait for them to be in People Magazine!

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Do you have trouble talking with you preteen-teenage daughter or son for sustained amounts of time?  If you answered yes then let’s look at possible options to have conversations for a sustained amount of time. First, catch them being good.  Many parents had communication with their parents based on what needed to be done,  what you were doing wrong and what you needed to do better.  When you did well, you likely received praise for an A grade on a test, a great project in art or a significant victory […]
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6Sep, 2011

Marital Communication – Part 5

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Love Language 3 – Receiving Gifts A gift is tangible meaning or visual sign that you love and care about your spouse. A gift can also mean your presence is important especially at important times such as a birth of a child and may mean you might have to sacrifice some of your own desires. Find out specifically what makes your spouse feel happy.       Love Language 4 – Acts of Service Acts of services have to do with helping and doing things for your spouse. It means doing […]
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25Aug, 2011

Decompression from Obsession

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Well, I didn’t think this was going to happen, but I bought a smartphone.  I tooled around with it for 1 ½ hours one night, getting it activated and ready to use.  The other night I browsed through several apps and downloaded several of them including Angry Birds (hilarious and addictive by the way).  I was never drawn that strongly to my phone in the past probably because I just saw it as a practical way to keep in touch with family and friends.  My phone did not take up […]
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13Aug, 2011

Celebrating Success

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Celebrating Success   In many busy lives, people respond to many demands.  With too much to do and never enough hours in the day, there are always a few mistakes.    You may be one of the people racing around trying to do it all and missing a few key items in the haste.  Do you kick yourself when that happens?  Does making a mistake set you back from your sense of accomplishment and purpose?  Becoming self-critical can sap your energy and lead to eroding self-esteem.   When was the […]
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11Aug, 2011

Tips for the beginning of the school year: Parents You Can Do It!

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The school year for children is upon us.  If you find your nervous energy gaining momentum stop and take a deep breath.  I have some points you might want to utilize in your thoughts and parenting approaches to get the full benefit out of your parenting approaches to your children; and, in particular in respect to homework.  Do not use the word grounding when your child spends a few week day nights procrastinating and comes misses deadlines for homework.  The word grounding to a child means-“Prison”.  My contention is that this […]
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9Aug, 2011

When Tragedy Strikes and the Healing Begins

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As I was doing my Amazon.com search for new books and music, I came across a CD entitled “Beauty Will Rise” by Steven Curtis Chapman.  The songs on the CD talk about Chapman’s journey after his adopted daughter’s accidental death.  He shares his struggles, his anguish, his doubts, his faith and his hope.   Maybe some of us (like myself) seemed removed from tragedies like an accidental death of a child, suicide, murder, natural disasters (e.g., the New Orleans hurricane, the Joplin tornado which claimed many lives), or the 9/11 […]
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