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Who Moved My Cheese?

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Several years ago, I bought a book titled “Who Moved My Cheese?”  It is an amusing and enlightening story about two mice (Sniff and Scurry) and two littlepeople (Hem and Haw) and how they deal with change (i.e., no cheese—the things you want to have in life– to be found in the usual place in the maze).  I encourage you to pick up the book – it’s short and the insights are easy to understand and are applicable to all areas of our lives.


I believe for some of us change can be scary, paralyzing us to do nothing.  Or we avoid the signs that something isn’t quite right.  We resist change. It’s hard to leave our comfort zones. It’s easier not to do anything than to risk doing something and our efforts were for nothing.  We may have unrealistic or irrational thoughts about change such as “It’s too late”, “I’m too old”, “Things might get worse, if I try to doing things differently”, or “I don’t want to fail and look foolish”.   


Ask yourself– if you decide not to change, is your current situation going to get any better on its own?  Are you willing to continue to suffer in a job/career that you don’t like, to be in a relationship where you are not getting your needs or putting up with someone's bad behaviors or knock yourself down because your not as smart, beautiful, creative as the other person?


I’ll summarize the insights (The Handwriting on the Wall) from the book here as food for thought
*Change happens (they keep moving the cheese)

*Anticipate change (get ready for the cheese to move)

*Monitor change (smell the cheese often so you know when it is getting old)

*Adapt to change quickly (the quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you can enjoy new cheese)

*Change (move with the cheese)

*Enjoy change! (savor the adventure and the taste of new cheese)

*Be ready to quickly change again and again (they keep moving the cheese)


Once you get past your fear and change your thinking, you will begin to realize change is a good idea and good for you.  You may still find yourself resistant or scared in the process and that’s ok.  Trust your instincts and forge ahead. You will realize that finding “new cheese” is not so bad after all.
Linda Luecke  MA, LPC

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