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5Jul, 2011

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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The above title is from a Clash song about one’s indecisiveness in breaking off a bad relationship.  He knows that if he leaves there will be trouble but the decision to stay would be even worse.  Nonetheless, the songwriter notes that it is up to the partner (who appears to be controlling the relationship) to make the decision in spite of the troubles they are having.   I have counseled individuals who have been or are currently caught up in an unhealthy relationship.  These relationships include married, engaged, uncommitted couples […]
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3Jul, 2011

ADHD Summer

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ADHD Summer As the song says, “Summertime and the living is easy!”  Families everywhere breathe a sigh of relief when school ends.  This may be especially true when a child struggles with attention concerns that interfere with school success. As summer break settles in for real with Fourth of July celebrations and the joy of summer activities, it may be a good time to think about how any family can use summer to help children develop lifelong skills and habits.  Take a few minutes and list a few things that […]
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1Jul, 2011

Good Customer Service Is Not Extinct

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I’m simply amazed at the lack of customer service no matter where you go. It seems like customer service has gone the way of the dinosaur.  I think we all have experienced bad customer service (just a few examples) – no one around to help you employees chatting to each other and ignoring you simply rude or unfriendly or not accommodating no greeting or smile to acknowledge your presence at a restaurant, the server doesn’t come back to check up on you until they hand you the bill slow service […]
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29Jun, 2011

Relationship Pointers

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When in a long term relationship or marriage the following information can be beneficial:   1)  Communicate openly about what you want from your partner.  Ask him/her what they want from the relationship.  The purpose of these questions will be to figure out if you are both on the same page in terms of what you want from the relationship.   2)  Do not allow disagreements to fester.  Find a quiet place and talk about the issue openly one at a time.  Use I messages such as I think, I […]
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28Jun, 2011

Marital Communication – Part 3

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As I mentioned in a previous blog, I will be highlighting each of the five love languages noted in Gary Chapman’s best-selling book “The Five Love Languages” in the next several blogs.    Love Language #1 Words of Affirmation   Chapman talks about three kinds of words we can communicate with our spouses: encouraging words, kind words, and humble words.   Encouraging words help our spouse reach their potential in the face of doubt, lack of motivation, insecurity.  We pay attention to our husband or wife’s strengths and share with them […]
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24Jun, 2011

Words to Live By

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Watch your thoughts; they become words.Watch your words; they become actions.Watch your actions; they become habits.Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. —Lao Tzu (Chinese philosopher  c.600 B.C.E.)   Self-awareness is key to our mental health.  Take time to examine your life and see what needs to be fine tuned.  Think about the legacy you want to leave behind for others to remember you by.     Linda Luecke  MA, LPC
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21Jun, 2011

Letting Kids Be Kids

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When I talk to parents about their children, they naturally talk about what they do. Moms and dads want their children to be happy and successful in life. Some jam-pack their kid’s schedules with all sorts of activities including sports, dance, foreign language and music. All this makes me wonder if they have time to breathe or remember their names.    Honestly, do you believe children are having fun or even feel good about themselves when parents map out their whole life?  Parents have a competitive spirit that sometimes blinds […]
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17Jun, 2011

Marital Communication – Part 2

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“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know that a love grows by reason and choice, not instinct.   I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth living.” (from “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, p.35)   After the honeymoon phase of a marriage, you will soon come to realize that your spouse is not quite the perfect person you had originally thought. The reality is that you […]
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17Jun, 2011

DO I NEED A THERAPIST

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Do I need a therapist?   Everyone needs help at some point in life.   You will derive benefits from professional therapy when the stresses of life are greater than the coping skills you have developed.  Deciding to get professional help is an important decision.  How to select a therapist is sometimes the reason that people delay going for help.   Recently, the Your Health program on National Public Radio (NPR) gave some ideas. (Click on the hyperlink to listen to the program).  Many clients think about how they will afford good professional help.  Consider looking […]
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14Jun, 2011

Marital Communication – Part 1

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One of the famous lines in movie history came from the movie “Cool Hand Luke”. "What we've got here is… failure to communicate." spoken by The Captain, the arrogant, domineering prison warden (Strother Martin) to Luke (Paul Newman).  This line is applicable to the couples who walk into my telling me they don’t why they can't talk to each other.    I have witnessed in my office married couples ripping each other apart, totally ignoring their spouses feelings, calling them names I can’t repeat here, saying how much they hate […]
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