Love Language #1
Words of Affirmation
Chapman talks about three kinds of words we can communicate with our spouses: encouraging words, kind words, and humble words.
Encouraging words help our spouse reach their potential in the face of doubt, lack of motivation, insecurity. We pay attention to our husband or wife’s strengths and share with them our thoughts and observations. We are their cheerleader and show our confidence in them that they can do it. We need to believe in them and tell our spouses they can reach their goals and dreams. Sometimes husbands and wives just need to hear it from the other spouse.
Kind words show that we care about our spouse’s feelings, that we put ourselves in their shoes in order to understand their perspective. We can express negative feelings in a caring, loving, respectful way without blame or rejecting our spouse.