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29Jul, 2011

Integrity

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I’m sure you are all aware of politicians, Hollywood personalities, sports superstars (or superduds), company executives who make news headlines, because they did something that we might consider immoral, unethical, or dishonest.  We get caught up in their stories, maybe even find them humorous or intoxicating. Unfortunately, we find these same stories happening in our own backyards involving people we know.   Some of the immoral, unethical, dishonest behavior we observe include *greed in pursuit of wealth, status, power for one’s self *taking advantage of someone for one’s personal gain *accepting […]
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23Jul, 2011

Celebrate Parents’ Day

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Parents’ Day Consider the effect parents have in the life of children.  The commitment and nurturing support of parents has a profound impact on the development of children.  Celebrating Parents’ Day on the fourth Sunday of July is an opportunity for families to talk about the positive experiences they have with parents and parenting.  Families may include many relationships including biological, foster and step families.  Parents’ Day can also recognize other significant people who take part in the raising of children in some families.  According to the National Parents’ Day […]
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21Jul, 2011

Marital Communication – Part 4

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Love Language 2 – Quality Time The second love language Chapman describes in his book, “The Five Love Languages”  is quality time.  This means time spent focusing on your spouse, giving him or her your undivided attention, and doing meaningful things together.  Quality time spent with your spouse means building positive and beautiful memories together.   Quality time means finding out what activities he or she likes to do and doing those things together.  As Chapman states, it’s not so much what you do, rather it’s time together to show […]
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14Jul, 2011

Talking or Medicine?

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Talking or Medicine? Getting the best help for your current situation may bring you to the age-old question of the “best” type of therapy.  Will you recover better with talking therapy or a prescription for medication? Many people start by considering what they have the quickest access to obtain.  Do you have a good relationship with your primary care doctor and is it fairly easy to go for an appointment?  Does your employer offer an Employee Assistance Program (EAP)?  Have you had a prior experience with therapy or with a […]
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14Jul, 2011

Minding Your Children

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One of my pet peeves is parents who do not mind their children. As a parent, I am constantly watching my two-year old son when he is around other children.  If he takes something that does not belong to him or pushes someone, I am quick to take care of the situation and apologize to the other child for what my son did to him or her.  I avoid making excuses for my son’s behaviors.   At the mall, playground, and even at church,  I’ve noticed some parents are off […]
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7Jul, 2011

Routines can be as Easy as 1-2-3

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Routines can be as Easy as 1-2-3   Every family I meet lately is concerned about stress.  Parents are weary and overwhelmed and children are tense, easily frustrated and confused.  Even in couples counseling when children are not involved, partners complain of too much to do, not enough time and feeling discouraged.   In my last post, I encouraged families to look at summer as a great time for creating some new routines.  This is especially helpful when someone in the family experiences problems with attention.  In this post I […]
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6Jul, 2011

Keeping Your Children Involved!

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When the time comes to enroll your child in an extra-curricular activity consider the positive aspects it provides:   Team sports help with socialization.  It may be an opportunity to make a friend they can do things with outside the team practices and games.   Music helps with creativity.   Drama helps with self expression.   Increased self esteem occurs over time as your child becomes more competent at the particular activity.   And, as you review each of these activities the positive attributes noted are not exclusive to each activity.  […]
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5Jul, 2011

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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The above title is from a Clash song about one’s indecisiveness in breaking off a bad relationship.  He knows that if he leaves there will be trouble but the decision to stay would be even worse.  Nonetheless, the songwriter notes that it is up to the partner (who appears to be controlling the relationship) to make the decision in spite of the troubles they are having.   I have counseled individuals who have been or are currently caught up in an unhealthy relationship.  These relationships include married, engaged, uncommitted couples […]
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3Jul, 2011

ADHD Summer

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ADHD Summer As the song says, “Summertime and the living is easy!”  Families everywhere breathe a sigh of relief when school ends.  This may be especially true when a child struggles with attention concerns that interfere with school success. As summer break settles in for real with Fourth of July celebrations and the joy of summer activities, it may be a good time to think about how any family can use summer to help children develop lifelong skills and habits.  Take a few minutes and list a few things that […]
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1Jul, 2011

Good Customer Service Is Not Extinct

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I’m simply amazed at the lack of customer service no matter where you go. It seems like customer service has gone the way of the dinosaur.  I think we all have experienced bad customer service (just a few examples) – no one around to help you employees chatting to each other and ignoring you simply rude or unfriendly or not accommodating no greeting or smile to acknowledge your presence at a restaurant, the server doesn’t come back to check up on you until they hand you the bill slow service […]
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